As I mentioned in my very first post in this series, my inspiration going into this 31Days writing challenge was Lysa Terkeurst’s book, The Best Yes. It really changed how I looked at the people, the commitments, and the callings God had put into my life. It also changed how I went about making decisions and how I spent my time. This book was pretty much a life changer for me.
I read it back in January of this year. I then began to reread it, this time more intentionally, more like a devotional. When I reread these following words recently I was convicted and encouraged. The chapter is titled, The Thrill of the Unrushed Yes.
She writes, “Honestly, can you imagine how crazy rushed we’d be if we only had tasks to do but not people with whom we must to connect?….. I need to be reminded that my soul needs time for relationships.” I hi-lighted that part. We need relationships with other people.
She quotes Ann Voskamp saying, “Rushing is for amateurs.”
I used to think that the person ru
nning around with the full schedule and something penciled in for every day of the week must have a lot of friends, be well connected and just having all the fun. When I tried to be that person, it just made me tired and left me feeling empty.
Even though “rushing around” does not fulfill me, I find myself still falling into that trap of doing, doing, doing. Am I so focused on doing things, that people are taking a back seat?
Making time for people requires just that, making time. I can’t fill my schedule to where it’s bursting at the seams with things and tasks and commitments and then expect to just squeeze in time for my relationships. It just won’t happen. That doesn’t work.
Not filling our to-do list or our days and leaving spaces of time, white and blank, give us that ability to make an “Unrushed Yes.” That Yes is investing time in our relationships with our spouse, our parents, our siblings, our children, our friends.
Lysa says, “Connection with those we love is like soul food.” and “It’s the relationships that help unrush us.”
For me, it’s watching Henry play cars and watching the expressions on his face. It’s talking to Lil at bedtime and not trying to rush through the routine. It’s sitting around my dining room table and having coffee with my girlfriends.
Let’s flip the coin, now. I avoid some relationships because they are hard. Do you?
Lysa says, “And yes, relationships can complicate things. But they also have the power to force us into a much simpler rhythm. Stop. Listen. Talk. Process. Walk. Notice. Engage. Compliment. Thank. Hold Hands. Just Be together.”
I love that, don’t you?
Relationships can be really hard sometimes. They can be draining and complicated. We need them, though, even the difficult ones.
I’ll end with this quote from Lysa, “Absolutely, the unrushed yes strengthens the fabric of my relationships so they can better withstand the wear and tear of everyday life. But it also provides space to recognize when relationships need extra attention, extra investments so things don’t unravel.”
It’s safe to say that this journey to My Best Yes comes down to this, my relationships.
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