For the past couple of days, I have been writing about the courage to say, “No.” There was the “Hard No” (read here) and the “Easy No” (read here). I’ve shared some helpful tools from Lysa Terkeurst’s book The Best Yes that have helped me immensely in my own Best Yes journey.
What if your Best Yes answer is…….Yes?
Yes answers can be just as scary as no answers at times. The fear of making a mistake often keeps me from making any decision at all.
I didn’t realize how much of a perfectionist I could be until the time The Hubs and I were shopping for socks. It was either before kids or we were out alone because there is no way I could have taken the time I took to make this decision if I had had kids with me.
I love patterned socks. I have literally 40 pair. I’ve counted them. We were in some specialty type store and there was a whole wall of patterned socks. My eyes lit up with delight and I could hear The Hubs sighing behind me. He knew we were going to be there for awhile.
After several, which I’m sure for my husband were painful, minutes I had narrowed down my options to a few. I can’t remember if I was getting one or two pair; but I had a handful to choose from and simply could not decide! “What if I took them home and regretted not buying the ones I had left behind?”
It’s kind of a silly example; but I do that in other areas of my life and on a much bigger scale.
What if? What if I follow all these decision making tools and ask for wisdom and I still make a mistake? Things still don’t pan out? They don’t like my ideas? I don’t pass the test? I don’t get chosen for the job? I fail???
I just love the truth that Lysa shares. Can I say once again? Read this book if you haven’t yet. You won’t regret it!
( pg. 83 in The Best Yes) “If I’m trusting myself, I will stare at all the possible ways I could fail. If I’m trusting God, I will stare at all the possible ways He’ll use this whether I fail or succeed.”
Whoa! Isn’t that freeing? Let’s not forget that God looks at our heart and our desire to please Him. I truly believe He honors this more than our decision making abilities.
Here are a few more encouraging reminders from the book. (pg. 80.) “The only way our faith will ever strengthen is for us to use it.” (pg. 80) “But sometimes God gives us two or more choices that would all please Him and be in His will. We get to choose.”
Friends, does that relieve you of some stress? I hope so. It did for me.
Sometimes your Best Yes is actually a “No”. But sometimes it’s a courageous “Yes!!” Go out there and follow that yes and see where it leads you.
Read 31 Days post here.